If you're on your own
What’s most important for your child is that they feel secure and part of a family, whatever the situation. Your baby comes first.
If you are a sole carer, it can be difficult to find information about parenting that is relevant to you. It can be very tiring when there's no one else to share the responsibility and the thought of being on your own might be worrying. However, you are not alone. Research has found that approximately 14,000 dads in Scotland are sole carers – all reflecting many different care arrangements.
If you share care
There are significant numbers of single parent families in Scotland who share the care of their children. No matter how much time you spend with your child, your presence in their life is important to their development and they will benefit from the time you spend with them.
Sometimes it can be difficult to agree with your ex-partner about care arrangements but the most important thing is to ensure that your child is protected from seeing or hearing any conflict. There are a range of organisations that can help you.
Help from friends and family
If you're bringing up a child on your own, don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends and family. Remember it’s important to make time for you as well as for your baby. As your baby gets older, support from family and friends is an important part of their wellbeing.
You may find the best source of support is other lone fathers. If you don’t already know people locally, you can contact other parents through fathers’ groups.
Why not try One Parent Family Scotland, Barnardos or Gingerbread. If you want to meet other dads in your area, try your local Children and Families or Sure Start Centre. Your Health Visitor will also be able to put you in touch with other organisations.