Postnatal depression (PND) is more common than you might think – affecting between 10-20% of new mums. It can hit you days, weeks or months after the birth of your baby. But help is at hand, and you’re not alone. Remember that although PND can be a bewildering and frightening experience, with the right support and treatment, you will be able to make a full recovery.
Symptoms of PND
PND commonly appears as overwhelmingly negative feelings – of loneliness and guilt, anxiety and irritability, tearfulness and exhaustion, anger and frustration. It may affect your appetite, your sleep patterns, your interest in sex and your concentration. For some women the feelings are quite mild, for others they are overwhelming.
Help is available
PND varies from woman to woman – as do its causes, and its treatment. But for every woman there is treatment and support available. The sooner you seek help, the sooner you’ll be back to feeling like yourself again.
What causes PND?
Medical experts don’t completely understand what causes PND, but it is clear that different factors can trigger PND in different women. These can range from stressful events and circumstances in your life to the sheer pressures and expectations of parenthood. In particular, it can affect you if your new baby is very demanding or if you don’t feel an immediate bond with her. For some women, these feelings can just come out of the blue, and that in itself is extremely stressful and upsetting.
Risk factors and triggers for PND
Evidence suggests that risk factors for developing PND include a personal or family history of mental health problems, stressful experiences in your life, recent difficult events or situations, domestic abuse or substance abuse. Mums are therefore encouraged to share that information with their midwife or GP before their baby is born, so that signs of PND can be spotted early on.
For some women, a poor birthing experience, or giving birth to a premature baby, or a baby with a health problem, or disability can trigger PND. For other women, lack of support from a partner, friends or family can be the cause, as can anxieties about finances, housing or lifestyle.
There is no hard medical evidence to support the claim that hormonal changes in your body after the birth can cause PND, although for some women, this may be a factor. It is important to remember that PND is very different from the hormonal ‘swing’ of the baby blues and doesn’t pass after a few days. Some women can even experience antenatal depression during their pregnancy.
How PND might make you feel
PND can be exhausting and frightening. Feelings of loneliness and guilt, tearfulness and frustration, irritability and anxiety are all common. You may feel worried and pessimistic about the future or overly concerned about your baby’s health.
For many new mums, it’s not unusual to feel lonely after the birth of your baby – particularly if you’ve given up work, or are no longer able to go out shopping, or on nights out with your friends. And if you don’t have a partner, or close friends and family around you on a regular basis, then it’s especially tough.
Society seems to expect all new mums to be delighted when their baby is born and to fall naturally into motherhood. Often, this just isn’t the case and if you don’t bond with your baby straight away you might feel guilty as a result. Guilt can sometimes trigger depression – as well as being a symptom of it.
Sometimes, even when things seem to be going really well, PND can just come right out of the blue. This can be confusing and upsetting. Feeling down for no reason may make you feel anxious and guilty – and that can make your PND worse. It’s a vicious circle.
Postpartum psychosis is a much less common condition, affecting one to two women in every 1000 births. Although it is rare, it can be very serious. Postpartum psychosis is usually experienced within the first month after you’ve had your baby. It is common for symptoms to develop in the first few days. At first you may feel elated (extremely happy) or overly anxious.
For women at higher risk, it is important that your partner and family are aware of the symptoms of postpartum psychosis as it may be one of them who first notices you becoming unwell. If you develop postpartum psychosis, you may feel that you are not interested in your baby. You may feel negative towards them and lose touch with reality.
You may feel like harming yourself or your baby. If you experience any of these thoughts, please let your health visitor, GP or family know to make sure you get appropriate treatment. If your GP surgery is closed you can call NHS 24 on 111 (freephone).